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Thursday, July 26, 2012

This Week in Favs….

Playing on the Zune: Welcome to England by Tori Amos

Social Media and Author Websites

Bloggers Beware: You CAN Get Sued for Using Pics on Your Blog – My Story by Roni Loren ß SUPER Important post! Please read!

5 Ways to Make Google Your "Assistant Publicist" by C.S. Lakin on Live Write Thrive

Reluctant to Join Social Media? by Angela Ackerman on The Bookshelf Muse

The Most Effective Book Advertising Tool Ever…And It's Free by Jonathan Gunson on Bestseller Labs

Tech Notes – HootSuite for Twittering Self-Marketers by Rob Mahan

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On the Craft

4 Ways to Improve Plot/Climax in Your Writing by Jeff Gerke on Writer's Digest

The Moment that Makes or Breaks Your Story by Larry Brooks on Storyfix

22 Rules of Storytelling, Part Four by Tabitha Oslon

The #1 Secret of Great Writers on Write to Done

Internal Medicine: How Much Internalization is Too Much? on The Other Side of the Story with Janice Hardy

Put Your Readers in Your POV Character's Skin, guest post by Margie Lawson, on the Writers in the Storm blog

From Newbie to Published: 12 Tips, guest post by Tiffany Allee on Jami Gold's blog

The Saga of Davi Rhii – Keeping a Sequel Fresh, guest post by Bryan Thomas Schmidt on Dana's Dragon Note

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Writerly Inspiration

Go Big or Go Home by C. Hope Clark

Teresa Frohock Throws Down the Gauntlet to Herself, guest post by Teresa Frohock on Staffer's Book Review (check out the first chapter of Teresa's new WIP, The Garden, here)

Are You Brave Enough to Take Responsibility for Your Actions? by Marcy Kennedy

What if Our Publishing Dreams Don't Come True? by Julie Musil

47 Things You Should Never Apologize For by Pam Asberry on Sometimes It's Cloudy, Sometimes It's Clear

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On Editing, Critiquing, Querying, Publishing and more…

After the First Draft: Part 1 by Mooderino on Moody Writing

5 Mistakes Killing Self-Published Authors by Kristen Lamb

How (Not) to Get Traditionally Published by Ava Jae

How to Publicize and Promote Your Book by Chuck Sambuchino on Writer Unboxed

How Self-Publishing has Helped All Writers – Welcome to the Revolution by Kristen Lamb

Five Lessons from a Book Tour Newbie, guest post by Suzanne Johnson on Jami Gold's blog

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Other Round-Ups

The Author Chronicles' Top Picks Thursday

Stina Lindenblatt's Cool Links Friday

Roni Loren's Fill-Me-In Friday

Elizabeth S. Craig's Twitterific (compilation of all the writing links she's shared this week – updated on Sundays)

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This week on the blog:

How to Get Back to *You*

Photo By: Doug Wheller

Happy Reading and Writing, everyone!!!

Melinda

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

How to Get Back to You

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Writers juggle a lot on a daily basis. Whether we’re aiming for traditional or self-publishing success, or simply writing for our personal enjoyment, we tend to carry ten or more hats in our back pockets while juggling fifty of those neon yellow tennis balls – all at once!

Between the spouse and the family, the friends, the dayjob, our characters and their stories, editing, rewriting, editing and rewriting again and again, writers really do attempt to juggle a lot more than we can handle. And sometimes we handle it better than we give ourselves credit for.

So it comes as no surprise when we sit back one day and think, “Who am I?” or “Where did I go?” Just think, if you were sit down and make a to-do list of everything you wanted to get done today, this week, this month, or this year, would an item on this list say, ‘Spend time with myself’?

Probably not.

And that’s okay. We’re selfless. We give, give, give without take, take, take. We stay up late at night writing or editing, we come home, clean house, cook, play with the kids/pets, spend time with our significant others, and give more than 100% at our dayjobs.

But what happens when we sit back and realize we don’t feel like ourselves anymore? Our writing suffers. Our families suffer. Our friends suffer.

We suffer.

So, how do you get back to *you*? How do you put it all aside and find yourself again so you’re writing life will flourish?

Here’s how:

1. Realize that those moments of feeling like a super hero are starting to become few and far in between. You used to feel like that at least once a week, but now you’re lucky if you feel like that once a month.

2. Realize that in order for your writing to be the best it can possibly be, everything else in your life must in order, and you must feel content with the most important relationships in your life (i.e.: spouse, children, family, professional, etc.).

3. Realize why you began this writing journey to begin with. Because you wanted to make a difference. Because you had something to say. Because it weighed heavily on your heart. Because you felt the most free when you were writing.

4. Realize that the most important component in books is the author itself. Without the writer in good health, mentally and physically, there’d be no book at all.

Once you sit down and realize all four of these, then you do the following:

1. Vow to step away from the writing for an entire week. Read a good book, watch some TV or a few movies, catch up on sleep, etc.

2. Vow to step away from social media. Social media can be very overwhelming and take up quite a bit of your time. Uninstall the Twitter/Facebook apps from your phone if you have to. Just make sure you step away from it entirely – and this includes blogging.

3. Vow to relax. Whether reading is relaxing activity of choice, or taking a nice, long, hot bath, or both. Or maybe relaxing for you is taking a yoga class. Whatever works for you, vow to do it and do it almost every day that week.

4. Vow to spend quality time with those you love. Add in a few extra date nights, tack on an additional night out with friends, surprise your mom or dad with a weekend visit. However you spend time with your family, double or triple it that week.

5. Vow to sit completely still for at least 30 minutes a day. Don’t read or do anything related to books and writing. Simply lie on the bed and be alone with your thoughts.

6. Vow to allow yourself to do all of the above without consequence.

If you can vow to all six of the above, then I promise you, your creativity tank will refill faster than you could’ve ever imagined. Before you know it, two days into the break you’ll have ideas flying through your head faster than those flying monkey in The Wizard of Oz, and you’ll be so giddy with writing them all down that you’ll fear you might miss one if you don’t have pen and paper readily available at all times.

This is when you will start to feel like yourself. This is when you hear yourself say or think, “God, I feel so much more like myself.” This is when you’ll truly feel free.

After the break, re-enter the writer’s life with slow, childlike steps, and schedule time alone so you won't lose yourself again.

Have you ever felt as though you’re simply walking through life on auto-pilot? Did your writing or personal life suffer from it? How did you get yourself back?

Thursday, July 19, 2012

This Week in Favs….

This week’s list is going to be a little short. I’ve been trying to get caught on sooooo much between social media and writing and the dayjob. So next week we’ll be back to normal with at least 25 writing links! :0)

Playing on the Zune: Reckless Abandonment by The Spill Canvas

Social Media and Author Websites

Twitter Tips and Tricks by Talli Roland on The Writer’s Guide to E-Publishing

On the Craft

Figuring Out Where Your Pacing Went Wrong by Roni Loren